Recently I received an group email from a good friend. Inside the email read:
Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. “When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently,” she says, “common themes surfaced again and again.”
Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish I had let myself be happier.
My friend ended the email with the question:
What’s your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?
The more I thought about that question, the more a thousand memories flooded my mind. Regrets . . . . Did I have things in my past I would change if I could?
Let’s see . . . . Where should I begin?
I should have gone farther away for college instead of staying local. I should not have married my high school sweetheart when I was so young (21)–only to get divorced two years later. I should have had enough faith in myself to go follow my heart and go to medical school instead of settling on a nursing career I wasn’t as passionate about. Should I continue????
But the more I thought about all my ” regrets”, the more I realized even though they may not be the same decision I’d make now (being soooo much wiser), they’re still not regrets. Each decision was a lesson that has molded me into the person I am today. Without those experiences, I wouldn’t be “me”.
And I actually like who I am. 🙂
So, If I had the chance to go back in time and change my past, I wouldn’t change a thing. I’d still go to a local college and so on . . . .
I’m pretty certain I’ll make many more mistakes in my future and will look back and wonder why I didn’t do things differently. But I will not look at them as regrets. I will use those experiences to make sure that I: have the courage to live a life true to myself–not the life others expected of me, to remember not to always work so hard, to have the courage to express my feelings, to stay in touch with my friends, and to always let myself be happy.
Only then will I be able to achieve everything I am capable of . 🙂
In my first series, TRUE INTENTIONS, the main character Ava O’Brian is a teenage girl with typical teenage dreams. But Ava has a unique power with the potential to change the world. This power doesn’t come without consequence. One wrong move and Satan will gain control of her ability.
Can a sixteen-year-old girl outsmart the most evil entity on earth?